Low self-esteem in children

How many times have you heard your child declare to you, in anger, frustration and sometimes in tears: “I’m a failure, I’m screwed, I never succeed”? How many times has your home given up on a class party or going out with girlfriends because she feels “fat, rejected and doesn’t really have friends who want to be around her”?

As parents, it is difficult for us to hear our children express themselves in this way and tend to dismiss themselves when their self-esteem is low and their belief in their ability decreases as they grow older. And in their personal ability to succeed in social and academic prosperity.

How do we identify low self-esteem among our children?

As parents we can identify signs of low self-esteem among our children, by their explicit statement about their failure, disappointment and inability to cope and perform tasks.

  • Powerful / Aggressive behavior – Can be expressed in the exercise of physical force on the environment (friends, family) or verbal forcefulness, aggressive speech spiced with juicy and sarcastic curses aimed at shielding the feeling of insecurity and sensitivity
  • Failure to meet tasks – Children with low self-esteem tend to postpone performing challenging tasks and they often use, manipulating and finding excuses, so as not to tackle tasks that have a high chance of failure.
  • Ignoring the problem to the point of denial – children who have a problem understanding the study material and repeatedly claim that they have no problem, they just do not like the profession and therefore do not succeed in it. Very typical of children with learning disabilities or ADHD
  • Domineering – Children with low self-esteem, tend to develop domineering behavior towards those around them
  • Clowning – children with low self-esteem, interested in hiding insecurity and creating sympathy among their friends by fooling around and clowning
  • Introvertedness – Insecurity and low self-esteem, sometimes creates introvertedness in our children, a closure that affects his position in society and his independence
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