Relationships

Fear and anxiety inhibit a relationship

The fear and anxiety we experience from a relationship creates many and varied excuses for why we are without a partner. Posters such as “I’m too young to settle down”, even though we’re long past 30 or “I’m a career woman and unfortunately, men are afraid of careerist, strong women”, are classic examples of fears wrapped in various excuses that do not allow us to move towards interpersonal relationships. Many years.

The fear and anxiety we experience from a relationship creates many and varied excuses for why we are without a partner.

Posters such as “I’m too young to settle down”, even though we’re long past 30 or “I’m a career woman and unfortunately, men are afraid of careerist, strong women”, are classic examples of fears wrapped in various excuses that do not allow us to move towards interpersonal relationships. Many years.

Other common reasons for fears / anxieties that inhibit relationships are:

• Low self-esteem – “I’m fat and ugly I have no chance of finding a successful partner” or “I was late for the train, who would want an old woman like me” and more…
• Fear of failure and parting in the face of past experience – “Two spouses I loved betrayed me, I lost faith in a relationship”
• Fear of making the wrong choice – “I have a knack for choosing the wrong girl, so I can not find the one”
• Fear of reading messages incorrectly – “Just because I’m nice to her when we go out, does not mean I see her as an option for a wedding. I do not understand what I did she thinks we are in the direction of a wedding”
• Anxiety about the loss of freedom and independence – “By living alone, I do not hold anything accountable, the cohabitation and the relationship will suffocate me”
• Anxiety maintains intimate relationships – “I have not experienced sex and intimate relationships for so long, that I am afraid I will not be good enough”
• Fear of inadequate sexuality – “Since I broke up with my wife every sexual encounter has ended in failure”
• Fear of intimacy and routine – “Just seeing my married friends and their boring and unsatisfying lives makes me fear intimacy”
• Anxiety about institutionalization, marriage and having children – “In most cases entering a stable couple system means marriage and children and I am not due for it”
• Fear of exploitation, loss of control – “In the past all my friends, exploited me emotionally to the point where I did not know myself and my decisions”
• Anxiety about dispossession of assets – “I graduated high school, worked hard and saved for an apartment and a new car and now, that the spouse will convene, she is automatically a partner in everything I have accumulated through hard work…”
• Anxiety about changing my personal status – “I do not define myself in a relationship, even though I’m nice to him and we’ve been together for over two years”
• Possible separation anxiety and immense pain – “I see some divorcing around, so I lose faith in the institution of marriage”